Lessons on My Natural Hair Journey

Happy New Year fam!!! It’s been such a long time. I’ve missed blogging so much. Thanks to everyone who wished me well in my exams. I passed very well, and thanks for your prayers and well wishes. 
For my first post this year, I have decided to share not just my “natural hair story”, but the lessons I’ve learnt on this journey. I hope they will inspire someone to hold on and not give up. 
Read: 10 Tips For Taking Care of Your Hair After Your Big Chop
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Why Should I Deep Condition?: Part I


The Benefits of Deep Conditioning

1. Deep conditioning helps your hair retain moisture better.

If you realise that your natural hair is always dry you need to deep condition more often. A moisture deep conditioner is needed for dry hair.

2. Deep conditioning reduces hair breakage.

If your hair is breaking off so much, you would need to deep condition.

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#DeepConditioning Series: Part II


🌼Are there types of deep conditioners?
🌻 Yes, all deep conditioners are broadly classified into two:
1) Protein DCs; and
2) Moisture DCs.

Protein DCs give strength to the hair. A moisture DC is one that increases the hair’s ability to retain moisture.

My mayonnaise DC works as both a protein and moisture treatment. Do check it out

A moisture DC is one that

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What’s The Best Way to Moisturize Your Natural Hair?


We all know now that moisture is none negotiable for those of us who want to grow long and healthy hair. To moisturize simply means to dampen. Water is simply the best moisturizer for your natural hair. This means that all those creams without water(aqua) among the first five ingredients are not really moisturizers.

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You have to see: Natural Hair Starter Kit: Tools and Products (Natural Hair Care for Beginners)

Well congratulations! You just got your big chop and you are now a full member of the natural hair club. I welcome you and wish you all the best on this journey.
If you didn’t transition or you transitioned for a little time, your hair will probably be in the teeny weeny afro(TWA) stage.
You need to read: Common Natural Hair Acronyms and Terms
This is an awesome stage to be at because almost everything is easier and takes less time. You are free to pourΒ all the water you want on your hair in the shower without the fear of shrinkage and drying time. Styling is also a lot easier at this stage. You can just comb your hair(if you want to), grab a cute hair accessory and head out the door.

A major fear new naturals have is limited styling options for a TWA. In reality, this doesn’t have to be so. There are so many styles you can rock with short hair. You can even try out a wash and go if you choose. I’ll post some styling tutorials later on.

Let’s get to the tips:
1. Develop a hair regimen
A regular hair regimen can consist of various processes such as pre-pooing, shampooing, conditioning, deep conditioning, ACV rinse, hot oil treatments, tea rinse, protein treatments, just to mention a few.
However, a hair regimen can be simple too. My regimen when I had a TWA was like this:

*Shampoo once a week
*Regular condition twice a week while I was in the shower.
*Deep condition fortnightly ( once in two weeks)–Please DO NOT skip deep conditioning
And my hair grew healthy and fast too.
Check out my wash day regimen: For Busy Naturals Who Don’t Have All Day! (How I Wash My Hair)

Sometimes, less is more πŸ™‚

2. Filter the advice
When I first went natural about 3 years ago, I joined a lot of natural hair groups. I then learnt about various hair recipes that can be made in your kitchen. I was so fascinated and so I was doing a lot of those “treatments”. I eventually saw the red light when some people recommended “engine oil treatment” and “urine therapy” (Of course I didn’t try them. Do you think so lowly of me 😦  ). I kid you not. I ended up getting a second big chop and starting afresh 11 months ago and since then I have been running away from kitchen concoctions.
This is not to say that all advice is bad… no way! I learnt so many valuable hair lessons from those groups. Kitchen concoctions may work for some people, but they don’t work for me. In all the months I tried them, I ended up wasting money(there was a time I used up a 500ml bottle of olive oil in 2 weeks! Now I use up one litre in a year!!), and all those products just weighed down my hair.
Now the moral of the story is simple. Filter all advice, not all will work for your hair. People can give tips about what works for them, but if you try it and it doesn’t work out for you, don’t force it. However, don’t be afraid to test the waters.

People can give tips about what works for them, but if you try it and it doesn’t work out for you, don’t force it.

3. Don’t worry about growth
Your hair will eventually grow long if you take care of your body and remain consistent to your regimen. It is said that hair grows about half an inch in a month. Even if your hair doesn’t grow that fast, don’t worry, you’ll eventually get there. Just make sure you’re eating well, drinking enough water and exercising. You know that hair grows from the inside so focus on what is going into your body. Nothing you apply externally to your hair can increase the rate of growth.
Later on this week I’ll upload a post on how to know whether your hair is growing. Hair experts say that your hair is always growing and if you think it isn’t, it may just be breaking at the same rate it’s growing. However, from personal experience I can tell you that it is possible that your hair may be growing slower than snail speed or not growing at all for a period of time. Make sure you subscribe so that you will be the first to know when that post comes up. πŸ™‚

Hair grows from the inside so focus on what is going into your body.

4. Don’t waste too much money on products
You may be looking for that one super product that will leave your hair moisturized forever, or give you the perfect curl definition. In this quest, you may end up spending large sums of money and still ending up disappointed and frustrated. To avoid this, make sure you read reviews on products before you buy. Or as a better alternative, you can check out these posts

Make sure you read reviews on products

5. Petroleum jelly is not your enemy at this stage
Before you expert naturalistas start throwing rotten tomatoes at me, I beg you to please hear me out!
For people with natural hair, products containing petroleum derivatives such as petroleum jelly(petrolatum), mineral oil( paraffinum liquidium, paraffinum) are worse that the devil. The problem with petroleum jelly and mineral oil is that they thickly coat the hair strand locking in the moisture already in the hair, but preventing further moisture from getting in. The greatest problem is that petroleum jelly is very hard to get off the hair, and it leaves the hair pretty dry if it stays on for too long. You often need to shampoo your hair regularly to remove it from the hair.
So why do I recommend it here? Because petroleum jelly/mineral oil are AMAZING sealants. (At this point you really need to check out this post if you haven’t done so).
See: Common Natural Hair Acronyms and Terms

A sealant is used to lock in moisture in the hair. And hey, when your hair is in a TWA, you can afford to wash your hair more regularly.
However, you may need to stop using the products when your hair gets too long for you to wash every other day. (And BTW, you don’t need to go “full wash day”, you can simply shampoo while in the shower and use just a little leave in conditioner before your petroleum jelly or mineral oil product).

6. Moisturize your hair
My moisturizing routine goes thus:
*LIQUID: I use my spray bottle to dampen my hair. However, at this stage you can wet your hair in the shower.
*OIL: I apply a coat of an oil mix including coconut and olive oils
*CREAM: I apply my leave in conditioner or shea butter mix to the hair.
This is called the LOC method.
See how I make my shea butter mix: 4 Quick and Easy Homemade DIY Leave In Conditioners All Under 500 Naira

You can apply the cream before the oil if your hair prefers that, whatever rocks your hair. (That’s the LCO method)

Natural hair is soft and can be combed easily when moisturized.

7. Get hair accessories
You definitely will need some pretty hair accessories to ‘decorate’ your beautiful fro. You can purchase them at your local beauty shop or make some yourself!


8. Learn how to style your hair
Contrary to public opinion, there are a number of diverse ways to style your TWA. I’ve lined up a few tutorials here. Check them out!


For the flat twist out, I used my Beautiful Textures Curl Definer Styling Custard for curl definition.


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10. Don’t pay attention to the haters! Rock your fro with pride!!
Always remember that regardless of your hair type, your hair is beautiful.

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If you’re new in the natural hair community, a few terms used on natural hair blogs, vlogs or pages may confuse you. However, you need not worry because I’m here to help. Here is a list I made of commonly used terms an acronyms.

*ACV: Apple Cider Vinegar. This is used for clarifying (just a fancy name for washing) hair. It also adds shine to the hair.
*BAA: Big ___ afro *covers eyes*. This is the opposite of a TWA. Kinda like what my hair is now.


my baa

*Baggying/Greenhouse Effect Method(GHE): This is a process in which you coat your hair with a leave in conditioner -or even just water- at night and cover with a shower cap or plastic bag overnight so that the heat from your body steams the hair making it super moisturized *yum yum*


the baggy method

*Banding: This is a method of stretching the hair using bands.
*BC: Big Chop. This means to cut off all the relaxed ends of the hair, leaving out only the natural hair.
*Breakage: Breakage occurs when the hair actually breaks off. Causes of breakage could be harsh chemical treatments, mechanical damage( e.g. when combing or brushing, rough handling of the hair), excessive heat treatments (blow drying and straightening-flat ironing), et al. This is what a broken hair looks like


hair breakage

*Carrier oils: These are oils that are used to dilute essential oils. They can also be used on their own. Examples are coconut oil, olive oil, avocado oil, sunflower oil, etc.
*Co-Wash: Washing your hair with rinse out conditioner alone. A lot of people use this method to avoid the stripping effect of shampoos but the method has never worked for me because my hair is really full and thick and never lathers, so I end up wasting conditioner. πŸ˜₯
*Creamy crack: A term used for relaxers.
*DC: Deep Conditoning. A deep conditioner deeply conditions the hair preventing breakage and giving strength to the hair.
*Essential oils: These are concentrated oils that must be diluted with carrier oils before use. Examples are rosemary oil, lavender oil, orange oil, lemon oil, etc.
*EVCO: Extra virgin coconut oil. This is coconut oil that has been minimally processed.
*EVOO: Extra virgin olive oil. This is olive oil that has been minimally processed.
*Humectants: Humectants attract water vapour from the atmosphere into the hair. Common humectants are honey and glycerin. Honey can be used as a pre-poo or conditioning treatment. Glycerin can be added to water in your spray bottle.
*JBCO: This is an acronym for Jamaican Black Castor Oil. This is a special oil that is good for adding thickness and shine to the hair.
*Leave in conditioner: The leave in conditioner works just like regular conditioners. The only difference is that the leave in conditioner is ‘left in’ and not rinsed out.
*LOC: This is a method for moisturizing the hair. LOC stands for liquid, oil and cream. A liquid, preferably water is sprayed on the hair first, an oil is then added to coat the hair strands to prevent moisture from leaving the strands. Lastly, a cream or butter is finally used to finally coat the strands to be double sure that no moisture leaves the hair at all.This is the method I use for my hair.
*LCO: This is an acronym for liquid, cream and oil. It is a moisturizing method like the LOC method. The only difference is that the cream is used before the oil in this case.
*Low manipulation styles: These are hairstyles made with your natural hair that require low manipulation, meaning that you do not have to comb or manipulate your hair for the period that you have the style in. Common low manipulation styles are two strand twists, flat twists, braids, bantu knots.


two strand twists

*Moisturizing: This is the process of adding water(moisture) to your hair.
*Pineappling: This is simply packing your hair up before going to sleep.
*Pre-poo: This is any hair treatment applied before shampooing the hair.
*Protective Style: This is any hair style that hides the natural hair and keeps the ends of the hair covered. Protectives styles can be used to retain the length of the hair, because there will be no combing or manipulation while the protective style is in. Examples include weaves, kinky twists, braids with extensions, crochet braids, etc.


my current PS: kinky twists

**I made this all by myself *happy dance* πŸ™‚

*Sealing: This is the process of locking in added moisture in the hair with a cream or oil.
*Shedding: This is when the hair comes right out of the root. A shed hair can be identified by the presence of a white bulb at the beginning of the strand. It is said that we shed between 100-150 strands of hair a day so fear not when you see the white bulb lol. πŸ™‚


hair shedding

*Shrinkage: My worst enemy 😦


nimi's shrinkage

Enough said. Water is the enemy!!! 😦

*SLS/SLES: Sodium lauryl/laureth sulphate. These are commonly found chemicals in shampoos which are bad for the hair.
*Transitioning: To transition to natural means to hold on to the relaxed ends while yourr natural hair grows out. The relaxed part will eventually break off or have to get trimmed off.
*TWA: Teeny weeny afro. This is when your hair kinda looks like this.


baby nimi's twa

Haha. Ain’t I just cute? πŸ™‚
Or this



Or this


Okay I’m sure you get the point now.

*APL: Arm pit length
*BSL: Bra strap length
*CBL: collar bone length
*MBL: Mid back length
*SL: Shoulder length
*WL: Waist length
*HBL: Hip bone length
*KL: Knee length
*AL: Ankle length

Did I leave any out? Let me know in the comments section.
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Congratulations! You’ve gotten your big chop or you just decided to transition to natural hair. You’ve made a great decision so don’t worry, I’m here to make sure you don’t regret it.
However, there are a few tools and products you will need to care for your natural hair, and I’ve put them together in this post.

1. A wide toothed comb: This will be very useful for detangling your hair. Smaller toothed combs lead to breakage and pain during detangling :'(.


my wide toothed comb

2. A spray bottle: A spray bottle will come in very handy during detangling, and on days when your hair needs a little moisture. I put water alone in my spray bottle, but some people choose to put in water with glycerin and/or some oils.


Spray bottle

3. A moisturizer: Moisturizers have water as one of their first ingredients. This is for adding moisture to your hair without getting the hair so wet or damp. My favourite hair moisturizers are Cantu shea butter leave in conditioning repair cream and Pro-Line Comb-Thru softener. Both make the hair feel so soft, moisturized and easy to comb through. However there are so many other great moisturizers to choose from, or better still you can make your own at home.


cantu shea butter leave in conditioning repair cream


pro line comb thru softener

4. Leave in conditioner: This is an essential product for moisture retention. Leave in conditioners prevent tangling and keep the hair smooth. Most leave in conditioners are moisturizers, but not all moisturizers are leave in conditioners. My favourite leave in conditioners are the Cantu shea butter leave in conditioning repair cream, and Profectiv Mega Growth daily leave in strengthener. Both of them leave my hair soft and moisturized.


profectiv mega growth daily leave in strengthener

5. After-wash conditioner: Hair conditioners work by coating your hair, thereby giving it a shinier look. They are also useful for detangling, moisturizing or strengthening the hair. My rinse out conditioner I use is Alberto VO5 Moisturizing Conditioner. It comes in different flavours, which are equally good and smell lovely.


alberto vo5 moisturizing conditioner

6. Sulphate free shampoo: A lot of shampoos contain Sodium Lauryl Sulphate, Sodium Laureth Sulphate or Ammonium laureth sulphate. These chemicals are also found in cleaning products and toothpastes. Sulphates are added to shampoos to make it easier for them to foam. However, they also leave your hair feeling dry because they strip your hair of the oils that your body produces from your scalp. There are a lot of organic sulphate free shampoos available as alternatives, however, I prefer to useΒ  African black soap, and it gets the job done just as well. πŸ˜‰


dudu osun african black soap

7. Oils: Oils are important for ensuring that your hair does not lose it’s moisture and get dry. Oils are to be applied on moisturized hair to seal in the moisture. There are so many great oils you can use for your hair, but I use coconut and olive oils. I love coconut oil because it’s light and seals in moisture quite well, and I love olive oil because of the shine it gives to my hair while conditioning it and soothing itching on the scalp. Other lovely hair oils include jojoba oil, almond oil, rosemary oil, argan oil, castor oil, avocado oil, tea tree oil, et al.


my olive and coconutt oil mix

8. Natural hair butters: Like oils, butters seal in moisture, but they are heavier than oils. Butters are great to use in dry weather like harmattan or winter. Different butters include mango butter, cocoa butter, ucuuba butter, cupuacu butter, et al. I use the great multipurpose, miracle working shea butter. It is excellent for retaining moisture while softening the hair and making it shine. Shea butter can also be used to soothe an itchy scalp


shea butter

9. Styling gel: This will be used to create those beautiful curls in your hair, or to lay edges or baby hairs. I use the Beautiful Textures Curl Definer Styling Custard for mixed textures. I love it because it has natural ingredients, and also doubles as a moisturizer.


beautiful textures curl definer styling custard for mixed textures

10. Love, care, patience: This is the most important ‘tool’ you need!

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